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by mellie » Mon May 16, 2011 2:35 pm
I agree with yogi, and I'd research it first, especially when it comes to something as potentially career altering or workplace disruptive as this.
If you have a good workplace relationship with him otherwise, and he's worked there for years with you, and you have a good rapport with him, I'd probably have a polite word with him and make it clear that you don't appreciate being placed in a position whereby you feel as though you are expected to renegade, shirk on your own responsibility's, however minor an office crime he may think it is, because effectively, you are enabling the fraudulent appropriation of funds entrusted to your care, after the fact, now that you know about it.
Look, no one likes a workplace wowser or stick-in-the-mud, this or someone who does this for the purpose of either blackmailing, (this is a crime also) or is just throwing their weight around the office,(ego-feeding) ...so make it clear why it is you feel you need to raise this matter with him, as a professional , (remember, he doesn't owe you any favours, (well, I suspect he doesn't or else you wouldn't be asking this question)...so why should you feel like a criminal all because he wants a free meal ticket? Ok, some might argue you are being inflexible, belligerent, and an office Nazi, but if you put it across in a manner whereby you make it clear to him that it's not personal, he'll probably be fine with it and foot the bill like he should have done to begin with.
If it's a first offence, and he's otherwise a good employee, perhaps you could do it over a beer, remove yourself from the professional setting to show him that it's not about ego/power, rather that it's genuinely not something you feel comfortable with now you know.
Bottom line, he needs to know where he stands, this and if he is going to do it, at least have the grace to do it discretely (tell his date not to blab about it in the office) so others with work ethics and a conscience don't feel like enablers, or accessories to a crime after the fact.
The question is, how are you going to put it back.... after the fact?
I would record the discussion for your own protection, (just to be on the safe side)... you never know, he might be a egomaniac and a nark, this and decide to be an a-hole a few months down the track.. so cover yourself. Document the time and date everything, leave a trail of some sort for a colleague to verify if he tries to do anything funny, blame you for what he tried to do, Hopefully, he'll be amicable, feel a bit embarrassed, and make good of his 'error'.
I will just add, I'm going by instincts here, based on what I would do if I were you, if I were in your shoes.
So, take my lack of experience into consideration when weighing it up, I am by no means experienced with dealing with this sort of thing, the closest thing I can think of just off the top of my head was when I caught a cleaner going through a patients personal possessions, (bed side draw ) and in this instance, I pretended not to see her do it, then I reported the mongrel for trying to steal off a vulnerable sick person recovering from surgery.
God luck, let us know how you get on, I would be curious as to how you solve your ethical dilemma.
Ps- Sorry for this long winded post. I got distracted with my own assignment, and forgot your 25 word rule..
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So in 25 words...
Ask him to make good of it, be sure you have assurances in place, alternatively, notify the company owner/s.
Remember, he's not to know you know he went to dinner with his girl.