Loneliness Epidemic

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The Mechanic
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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by The Mechanic » Tue Apr 23, 2019 12:46 pm

I often describe myself as a “Social Hermit”

IN that once I leave work, I don’t socialise with anyone as such...

I can see them at work.. I don’t need them at my place... and I don’t need to go on holidays with them...

I often see others that always go on holidays with their “Fwiends”...

Its like some couples cannot be alone with each other and have always got to take fwiends with them... I don’t get it myself, but if that’s how they roll then that’s fine too...

I like Hanging out with the Mrs... hell, we even Built a huge shed together... I hardly yelled at her at all... 🤣

I like working with the public in my jobs that i’ve had... some are arseholes but mainly they are good people and I like helping them...

But once home... DON’T bother me....
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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by sprintcyclist » Tue Apr 23, 2019 1:28 pm

The Mechanic wrote:
Tue Apr 23, 2019 12:46 pm
I often describe myself as a “Social Hermit”

IN that once I leave work, I don’t socialise with anyone as such...

I can see them at work.. I don’t need them at my place... and I don’t need to go on holidays with them...

I often see others that always go on holidays with their “Fwiends”...

Its like some couples cannot be alone with each other and have always got to take fwiends with them... I don’t get it myself, but if that’s how they roll then that’s fine too...

I like Hanging out with the Mrs... hell, we even Built a huge shed together... I hardly yelled at her at all... 🤣

I like working with the public in my jobs that i’ve had... some are arseholes but mainly they are good people and I like helping them...

But once home... DON’T bother me....
Good on you.

Congrats on your shed construction with your bestest friend
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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by Neferti » Tue Apr 23, 2019 5:21 pm

sprintcyclist wrote:
Sun Apr 21, 2019 9:40 pm
Neferti~ wrote:
Sun Apr 21, 2019 5:35 pm
Black Orchid wrote:
Sun Apr 21, 2019 4:12 pm
cods wrote:
Sun Apr 21, 2019 4:06 pm
that sounds like NOT A FRIEND IN THE WORLD..

I find that hard to believe to be honest....

I dont get out much mainly because I dont want too...but it does mean I spend a fair
bit of the day on my own.......not sure if that makes me lonely though...

what do you think black orchid???.....I have never thought of myself as lonely...
There's a difference between choosing to be alone and being lonely. Being alone is a state of chosen solitude whereas being lonely is an emotive feeling.
I spend most days by myself and love it! I never feel lonely or bored and actually enjoy my own company. :mrgreen:

I am a people person.
Used to run a telephone exchange by myself for a while.
At lunchtimes would forward the alarms through to the main exchange and go to the local shops.
It was just to see other people in the world
Sprint,

When I first retired, years ago, the only thing I missed about "work" was the morning contact with co-workers.

I solved that problem with having lots and lots of email friends around the World and would spend 2 hours on the computer, every morning, answering them. Many have either died or just disappeared but I still have that usual morning activity.

My door is always open so that local friends don't need to be invited to "drop in". They take me as I am.

You really do not "need" people to be happy and content. If you get "bored" by yourself, just imagine what the people you know think about you? :mrgreen:

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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by Neferti » Tue Apr 23, 2019 5:28 pm

The Mechanic wrote:
Tue Apr 23, 2019 12:46 pm
I often describe myself as a “Social Hermit”

IN that once I leave work, I don’t socialise with anyone as such...

I can see them at work.. I don’t need them at my place... and I don’t need to go on holidays with them...

I often see others that always go on holidays with their “Fwiends”...

Its like some couples cannot be alone with each other and have always got to take fwiends with them... I don’t get it myself, but if that’s how they roll then that’s fine too...

I like Hanging out with the Mrs... hell, we even Built a huge shed together... I hardly yelled at her at all... 🤣

I like working with the public in my jobs that i’ve had... some are arseholes but mainly they are good people and I like helping them...

But once home... DON’T bother me....
In my experience, the people you work with are only friends until you leave that job, then they are acquaintances ... and very soon "strangers".

"Best Friends" reminds me of school days. I don't keep in touch with any of them, our lives have moved on and we forgot about the Christmas card list ... a very long time ago. :mrgreen:

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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by The Mechanic » Wed Apr 24, 2019 1:30 pm

Neferti~ wrote:
Tue Apr 23, 2019 5:28 pm
The Mechanic wrote:
Tue Apr 23, 2019 12:46 pm
I often describe myself as a “Social Hermit”

IN that once I leave work, I don’t socialise with anyone as such...

I can see them at work.. I don’t need them at my place... and I don’t need to go on holidays with them...

I often see others that always go on holidays with their “Fwiends”...

Its like some couples cannot be alone with each other and have always got to take fwiends with them... I don’t get it myself, but if that’s how they roll then that’s fine too...

I like Hanging out with the Mrs... hell, we even Built a huge shed together... I hardly yelled at her at all... 🤣

I like working with the public in my jobs that i’ve had... some are arseholes but mainly they are good people and I like helping them...

But once home... DON’T bother me....
In my experience, the people you work with are only friends until you leave that job, then they are acquaintances ... and very soon "strangers".

"Best Friends" reminds me of school days. I don't keep in touch with any of them, our lives have moved on and we forgot about the Christmas card list ... a very long time ago. :mrgreen:
I’m not sure why people go to “school” reunions either.

Going back to see people you never really liked anyways? Doesn’t make sense.

Not unless you are only going to bignote yourself?

see what happened to others hoping that you are doing better than them?

Catch up with an old flame hoping to dip your wick? 😂

To each there own i guess.
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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by Neferti » Wed Apr 24, 2019 2:00 pm

I've never been to a school reunion and have no intention of ever doing so. I have old friends on my Christmas card list that I haven't seen for decades, but each year we send a card and write a few lines. I guess it would be different if you stayed in the same State or even town/city, but I haven't. I don't do funerals either, so miss out on catching up with all the rellies, etc. Ah well. I am definitely NOT lonely. :mrgreen:

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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by Black Orchid » Wed Apr 24, 2019 2:23 pm

I went to an all girls school so not interested in the dipping of wicks :rofl

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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by Nicole » Wed Apr 24, 2019 5:29 pm

Black Orchid wrote:
Wed Apr 24, 2019 2:23 pm
I went to an all girls school so not interested in the dipping of wicks :rofl
No box for you? :rofl

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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by The Mechanic » Fri Apr 26, 2019 12:56 pm

Ok, Two facts have come out of this thread.

1: Most of us on this forum as Social Hermits preferring our own company - and/or that of just family members and pets

2: We are not interested in Dippings of Wicks whether its Male or Female. :bgrin
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Re: Loneliness Epidemic

Post by The Reboot » Sat Apr 27, 2019 7:21 pm

I couldn't think of anything worse than a school reunion. Even if I went to an all girl's school :lol:

I'm not sure if I take much stock in these "studies" and "statistics", especially with the claim that being lonely is deadlier than smoking 15 smokes a day or whatever it was. A lot of these articles, to me, remind me of the bullshit clickbait that pops up when browsing online.

Speaking from personal experience, I am an introvert who works in a very "people" orientated job. To the point that after the working week is up, I just want to be alone with my books, or my PC games. I have good relationships with people, but there are few (outside of family, and my partner) who I consider to be chummy with, keeping folks at arms length. To the normal person, I suppose that would seem lonely. Does it depress me? Is it killing me? No. I couldn't be happier.

On the flipside of that, I was in a terrible situation many years ago, with my first relationship. We met through Facebook and due to my naivity, I moved in with her shortly after we got "serious". It was the biggest mistake of my life, as I discovered that she clinged to people and had to have them around, people I deemed undesirable and untrustworthy, people that used her and by proxy, used me. (If it helps to add to context, it was a methhead/"Houso" situation). This experience was the worst in my life. I was depressed, it probably did take years from my life.

So overall, I think the mistake these "studies" make is the assumption that all people want/desire clinging to people like shit to a bowl.

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