Confrontational Personality Disorder

[Black Orchid]

[quote]Aggressive and confrontational people who become perpetrators of violence can be easily identified by a "red triad" of personality traits, a Texan researcher told a conference on reducing aggression on Saturday.

William Ickes, a personality and social psychologist from the University of Texas, Arlington, told the 22nd world meeting of the International Society for Research on Aggression at the University of NSW, there are three traits that reliably predict extremely rude and confrontational people.

"They are amoral and don't adhere to conventional morality, thin-skinned so don't take criticism well and hot-headed so they quickly get angry and aggressive," he said.

"Aggressive people are prepared to escalate confrontational situations by doggedly standing their ground which can easily spill into violence," he said. "People who display the red triad character traits are more likely to be described as domestic terrorists who tend to get pissed off very easily and violate the norms of polite society because they think those rules don't apply to them. Religious terrorists tend to differ in that they have an ideology they adhere to."

Ickes has been studying aggression with his research team since 2011, asking a host of questions about how quickly people become confrontational. The research he presented in Sydney on Saturday was the result of tests involving more than 900 people whom he tested on a rudeness scale.

"She pointed out there were a lot of people having little or no respect for conventional morality who refused to be corrected or criticised in any way."

http://www.smh.com.au/nsw/the-personali ... qc43k.html

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An Observable High Conflict Pattern

High-conflict people (HCPs) have a pattern of high-conflict behavior that increases conflict rather than reducing or resolving it. This pattern usually happens over and over again in many different situations with many different people. The issue that seems in conflict at the time is not what is increasing the conflict. The “issue” is not the issue. With HCPs the high-conflict pattern of behavior is the issue, including a lot of:

All-or-nothing thinking
Unmanaged emotions
Extreme behaviors
Blaming others

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Extreme behaviors: HCPs frequently engage in extreme behavior, whether it’s in writing or in person. This may include shoving or hitting, spreading rumors or outright lies, trying to have obsessive contact and keep track of your every move – or refusing to have any contact at all, even though you may be depending on them to respond. Many of their extreme behaviors are related to losing control over their emotions, such as suddenly throwing things or making very mean statements to those they care about the most. Other behaviors are related to an intense drive to control or dominate those closest to them, such as hiding your personal items, keeping you from leaving a conversation, threatening extreme action if you don’t agree, or physically abusing you.

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Blaming others: HCPs stand out, because of the intensity of their blame for others – especially for those closest to them or in authority positions over them. For them, it is highly personal and feels like they might not survive if things don’t go their way. So they focus on attacking and blaming someone else and find fault with everything that person does, even though it may be quite minor or non-existent compared to the high-conflict behavior of the HCP. In contrast to their blame of others, they can see no fault in themselves and see themselves as free of all responsibility for the problem. If you have been someone’s target of blame, you already know what I’m talking about.

They also blame strangers, because it is so easy. On the Internet, they can be anonymous and make the most extreme statements. Even if they know you, there is a sense of distance and safety, so that extremely blaming statements can flow.

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A Predictable Pattern

Perhaps 15% of our society (and growing) seems preoccupied with blaming others a lot of the time. Though it’s a growing problem, it’s a predictable problem—and can be handled in most cases, if you understand it. Once you know some aspects of their pattern of behavior, you may be able to anticipate other problems that will arise and avoid them or prepare to respond to them.

HCPs seek Targets of Blame, because blaming others unconsciously helps them feel better about themselves. Blaming others also helps them unconsciously feel safer and stronger when they connect with other people. They’re constantly in distress and totally unaware of the negative, self-defeating effects of their own behavior. In a sense they are blind. Since HCPs can’t see the connection between their own behavior and their problems, their difficult behavior continues and their conflicts grow.

[Black Orchid]

Underlying High-Conflict Personality Pattern

1. Rigid and Uncompromising, Repeating Failed Strategies

2. Difficulty Accepting and Healing Loss

3. Negative Emotions Dominate their Thinking

4. Inability to Reflect on their Own Behavior

5. Difficulty Empathizing With Others

6. Preoccupied with Blaming Others

7. Avoids Any Responsibility For the Problem or the Solution

http://www.highconflictinstitute.com/wh ... ict-people

[Black Orchid]

Worth a watch

[cods]

I think this should be on ozpol to be honest black orchid.....

someone is busy trolling me now in a thread about death...our illustrious gmods will tell me to just suck it up if I ask for help to stop it..

its my fault for engaging...

this is so typical of a bully one of the worst I am thinking....but he changes things to fit in with his manic way of thinking....

we know what he thinks about women no respect at all...which now seems to flow on to dead people doing nothing wrong on our roads..but lets mock them and try to win brownie points at the same time...

how we are meant to deal with this I will never know.

[Neferti]

Spot on, Black Orchid ...

Somebody asked whether he had ever been in a relationship and his reply was something to do with Grandchildren ....