Bobby wrote: βSat Dec 28, 2024 7:28 pm
mellie wrote: βSat Dec 28, 2024 6:37 pm
This said, no way is a male showering me unless I'm out of it. Lol
What about a lezzo?
If she's born female, then I'm ok with this. Besides, by the time I'll be needing someone to shower me, the last thing she'd be thinking about was my wrinkly old near corpse.

My mother was a nurse too before she fled the wards for more comfortable pastures, ( better paid job) and I asked her the same question, although I knew what her answer would be.
A big resounding no to a male nurse showering her.
Besides, guys just don't know how to wash us properly anyway, and usually because they're not comfortable washing her private areas, not the way a female does.
Guys are different, there's nothing intricate about guys, but there's some very important rules with females. Front to back , definitely no nasty hospital grade wall soap on delicate areas, and understand this .... we're not as simple as male anatomy.
Females are more prone to a whole host of Issues, especially those with catheters in.
More prone to UTIs etc
If you don't dry us properly, we'll get thrush, or if you dry us too much, we'll get chafed, then get thrush. Particularly the elderly.
Just better and more comfortable all round that clients are washed by same sexed staff, and this is what they aim to do in most cases.
Honestly Jasin, mum and I had White ladies attend to Nan even for her funeral, because we were scared she'd haunt us.
No seriously, we knew how she felt about her modesty, and we respected her wishes.
It's really as simple as that. Don't be offended, it's not a sexual thing, it's just how most of us feel.

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